i’ve argued about this numerous times, being told i’m british instead. a common issue especially amongst 1st generation immigrants faced with cultural assimilation. my aunties would always ask - ‘ị na-asụ igbo(?)’ because i don’t speak it fluently lol. but to me my lack of fluency in my mother tongue doesn’t decide what my cultural belonging is, it doesn’t invalidate the fact i identify as a nigerian, there are more elements which comprise of a culture and language is just one aspect and shouldn’t be the deciding factor. i’ve experienced social exclusion from other nigerians because of it but it’s not something i actively tried to avoid learning growing up.
so no i don’t feel any.. less nigerian. i don’t accept ppl trying to alienate me or tell me what i am, i know what my heritage is, i grew up in my culuture no matter what country i happened to be in. take that on board, know yourself and don’t let anyone make you feel any type of guilt or less than.
my social studies teacher once told us “human beings are the most selfish of all. even when someone dies, you shed tears only because they are no more around to provide you with whatever they had been for so long”
and it has been 3 years since she said this and this is still what i think about at night