Anonymous: Do you feel any less Nigerian for not being born there or fluent in your mother tongue something which i've had an issue with


i’ve argued about this numerous times, being told i’m british instead. a common issue especially amongst 1st generation immigrants faced with cultural assimilation. my aunties would always ask - ‘ị na-asụ igbo(?)’  because i don’t speak it fluently lol. but to me my lack of fluency in my mother tongue doesn’t decide what my cultural belonging is, it doesn’t invalidate the fact i identify as a nigerian, there are more elements which comprise of a culture and language is just one aspect and shouldn’t be the deciding factor. i’ve experienced social exclusion from other nigerians because of it but it’s not something i actively tried to avoid learning growing up.
so no i don’t feel any.. less nigerian. i don’t accept ppl trying to alienate me or tell me what i am, i know what my heritage is, i grew up in my culuture no matter what country i happened to be in. take that on board, know yourself and don’t let anyone make you feel any type of guilt or less than. 


my social studies teacher once told us “human beings are the most selfish of all. even when someone dies, you shed tears only because they are no more around to provide you with whatever they had been for so long”

and it has been 3 years since she said this and this is still what i think about at night

I have been astonished by hearing individuals who inherited wealth in childhood warn against sharing resources because people needing help should work for money in order to appreciate its value. Inherited wealth and/or substantial material resources are rarely talked about in the mass media because those who receive it do not wish to validate the idea that money received that is not a reward for hard work is beneficial. Their acceptance and use of this money to strengthen their economic self-sufficiency exposes the reality that working hard is rarely the means by which enough of us can gain enough access to material resources to become wealthy. One of the ironies of the culture of greed is that the people who profit the most from earnings they have not worked to attain are the most eager to insist that the poor and working classes can only value material resources attained through hard work. Of course, they are merely establishing a belief system that protects their class interests and lessens their accountability to those who are without privilege.
― bell hooks in All About Love: New Visions (via ethiopienne)